Ben The Bachelor.

on February 2, 2012 in Ze Bloggy Goodness with 11 comments by

Each season, without fail, we just need to take a few minutes to talk about The Bachelor.

During Ali’s season, I looked like Roberto’s mom.

During Brad’s season, @BradWomack followed me on twitter.

And during Ashley’s season, we felt sorry for Ben and celebrated JP.

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If you don’t watch The Bachelor, I respect that. Just feel free to ignore this post. But I also think you should read this article about why smart girls do watch it. Because smart girls do watch it. Lots of them. As in, all of them.

[And let me go ahead and insert this –> my friends and I watch The Bachelor for ENTERTAINMENT. Not for WISDOM or ADVICE or BEHAVIOR SUGGESTIONS. Amen.]

. . . . .

I had a great post planned… I’ve been thinking about it all week. The girls I wanted to discuss… mainly cute Kacie from Tennessee, to whom I want to say, “seriously, sister, move to Nashville. We will find you a beau.” She’s great and I want her to date my friends [any of them] so that she and I can be friends. Is that too much to ask? And of course, we would need to talk about the insane blogger Jenna who left early in the season but not before leaving her looney mark on the whole thing.

But then I watched this week’s episode. Now listen, I was not Ben’s biggest fan when this whole thing started. I like the guy, sure. He handled Ashley’s rejected proposal with class and maturity.

But man oh man. This week. He really messed up.

It’s not that in seasons before everyone has been classy and wholesome. It’s just that he and Courtney sneaking off and skinny-dipping in the ocean kinda changed The Bachelor game forever. You don’t do that. You play by the rules of the show. And they aren’t.

Maybe the producers cooked it all up; at the least they allowed it. Regardless, ick.

Can you IMAGINE if he is engaged to another girl from this season and she SAW that? If they weren’t broken up before, I bet they were by 11pm EST Monday night.

[Of course, I say all this fully aware that I do not know these people. I have a small number of high profile friends and when people on the internet express incorrect opinions about their lives, I tend to cringe at their assumptions. So if you are real life friends with Ben, forgive me if I’m wrong here. But he did choose to live his love life on television…. so….]

And if he is engaged to Courtney, can you imagine what he is thinking after seeing all the interviews, etc?

So. I’m talking about Ben the Bachelor today because I said I would, but I think I’m done with him and this will be the last time. He is proving things to me about how some guys think that make me feel very insecure. Courtney is showing a woman’s ability to manipulate to get what she wants, and I think that is terrible too. They seem to be displaying the worst parts of our human natures and to watch that reminds me of the worst parts of me. Again, ick.

I’m sure they are nice people and maybe I’ll be friends with them someday. Maybe they are different in private than they are on the show [I’m 100% sure that is the case] and maybe they’ve been edited terribly.

No matter what, the truth is I just don’t want to watch their lives anymore. This show is supposed to be fun entertainment and after this week’s episode, it’s just not so fun now.

This season lacks integrity. Mock me for saying it because hello it is The Bachelor. But it seems in seasons past, there have been moments of redemption, where you legitimately believe people might find love and are there in order to do so.

The only redeeming thing from this season? Sweet Kacie. Come on, girl. Let’s be friends.

And listen. Next season when Emily is The Bachelorette? Oh, I’ll be back on board like nobody’s biz-nass. Because that girl is the sweetest thing going.

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What are your thoughts? Am I totally off base here? Are you loving this season? Who do you think Ben ends up with? [And please no spoilers!]

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[And happy birthday to my baby sister Sally! You’re the coolest. Sorry you’re sharing a post with Ben and Courtney. Thanks for being nothing like the characters they are playing on TV. Love you.]


  1. posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 3:47 AM  |  reply

    So, I am in Scotland, so the only way I {think I} can see this is to download it on Itunes. {Is that what you did?} And, I did that the last two seasons. But, trying to save money, I skipped buying this season. Based on your post….seems like that was a good decision. Ben seems boring to me, but like you said, I don’t know him in real life. Maybe he is fantastic.

    Emily, though? Excited for that. Will probably hope for an Itunes giftcard so I can download it. 🙂 It is intriguing to me when a single parent takes the chance. They seem to be in it more seriously. While Jason Mesnick made us all mad, he DID end up with a wife from his season.

  2. posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 9:16 AM  |  reply

    Ok so I don’t really watch the Bachelor/Bachelorette even for entertainment with the exception of Brad’s season and Ashley’s season. (I heard about Brad’s original season and I wanted to see if he really did change or not and I really liked Ashley on Brad’s season and I was rooting for her to find love.) I did like Ben on Ashley’s season but not enough to want to watch – especially when I see the promos with Courtney. I had heard about Brad going skinny dipping before this past week’s episode but I figured it was during a one-on-one date (not that that fact would make it any better…) not when Courtney sneaks into his house. I gotta say that from what I’ve seen in promos makes me wonder if the Bachelor is really going to last much longer. Although, I’ve said that before and it keeps going. I have mixed feelings about the show (and won’t go into them here) but will say that I wonder if how Ben and Courtney (along will everyone else on the show) portray themselves is how they truly are or if it is a character they are playing? Makes one wonder if they are truly looking for true love or lust.

  3. posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 10:02 AM  |  reply

    ok, so I watch the Bach…and was looking forward to your post till Tuesday when I watched the show online. Because I felt speechless after that.
    I honestly had liked Ben from Ashley’s season. He seemed sweet and kind and all that to me, not to mention that I have a thing for Bens so I was just feelin’ it.
    But as the season has progressed I have thought, hummm…this guy isn’t as nice as I thought he was, among other things.
    And then Monday’s episode…sad. Totally sad. I was shocked that he would do that with her, when he hasn’t even narrowed it down more to the “select few” girls that he thinks he “really” has a connection with. (not that I think it would have been ok even later on but at this point it seems even more of a no, no).
    And Courtney…I know I don’t know her but from what I have seen I don’t like her. She doesn’t seem to be looking for love but looking to win.
    Ugh…disappointed in this season.

  4. posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 10:02 AM  |  reply

    i feel like a resounding “amen” is the only thing i can really add to this conversation.

  5. Spearle
    posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 11:25 AM  |  reply

    I watched last week’s episode on Hulu and after I saw the preview for this week, I quit The Bachelor. Because I’m done with it. Skinnydipping on TV is two small skips away from porn. Skinnydipping before marriage on TV? Kiss your bride good-bye.
    I’ve decided that the Bachelorette is something I can watch, but the Bachelor I can’t stomach. Maybe it’s something about men chasing a woman being more okay in my book than a bunch of catty women (and sweet gals that shouldn’t have auditioned to get their hearts broken) battling over one overrated man.
    Anyway, I should probably quit the show altogether and just stick with Biggest Loser because that’s about as much as I can handle in the drama department.
    P.S. don’t tell my folks I watch Bach–they would be eternally ashamed of me 😛

  6. posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 1:17 PM  |  reply

    Annie! I got chills reading your post, as weird as that sounds! I feel that this comment will be riddled with exclamation points! You are RIGHT ON. You put the EXACT words to what I was feeling after this latest episode. Honestly, I watched it on Hulu right before BIBLE STUDY and swore it off, sharing my decision with my group because I had felt ICKY.
    I sound like my mom when I say that I literally felt convicted in my spirit (I don’t normally talk like that, but it’s true!) and think it’s over.
    Thanks for your thoughts and words. They’re on the nose. (!)

  7. posted on Feb 02, 2012 at 2:49 PM  |  reply

    I’m so disappointed in Ben. I thought he did seem like a decent, genuinely nice guy. The stripping thing was just wrong in every way.
    Courtney’s awful and it’s been so sad to see him caught up with her, but the other girls also lost my respect with the way they treated Shawntel! That was unbelievable~ they were vicious!
    So, I guess I’ll be back when Emily’s on. I’m nervous for her. I hope they don’t pick a bunch of crazies!

  8. posted on Feb 03, 2012 at 1:05 PM  |  reply

    Way to take a stand, Annie! I agree. It’s always been fun to watch terrible reality TV with the girls, mocking the silliness of it and hoping for the best, but when a show completely disregards any attempt at pretending to look for love and commitment, it kinda turns my stomach. I think that our generation has a hard enough time finding non-cynical, decent people who want to commit to a life-long love without feeding ourselves this kind of irreverent gunk.

    There’s nothing wrong with a little ridiculous entertainment, but the Bachelor this season has made me really sad for our culture and our future.

  9. Savannah
    posted on Feb 03, 2012 at 1:39 PM  |  reply

    Thought you may like this Annie!
    Man, I wish Tim tebow were on there with an easy contact 🙁

  10. posted on Feb 04, 2012 at 1:37 PM  |  reply

    I stop watching the Bachelor a long time ago, but I can be known to watch a few episodes of The Bachelorette. I think part of it is that I can’t stand to watch girls chase after the guy. It is somewhat painful. However, I think once I reached the point where some of the contestants were my age, I had a harder time watching them do foolish things.

    However, you are right that this is entertainment, but at the same time these are people’s lives? I do think it gives a good picture of what the world views as “love”.

    Okay, I am stepping off my soapbox.

  11. posted on Feb 04, 2012 at 7:55 PM  |  reply

    He said he felt really bad about it…

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