A Brave Story : Natalie

on February 11, 2015 in #thatisbrave with 5 comments by

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This week’s #thatisbrave story comes from Natalie. Alright, single gals. This is such a sweet story that I’m sure you’re going to relate to- and dudes, check out the inner bravery that many of us ladies feel pretty frequently. Her words and name are used with her permission.

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Let me just start out by saying that I am a complete pansy when it comes to talking to guys I like.

For some reason, I’ve always been afraid of the guys I’ve had crushes on. It’s funny, because most of my closest friends in life are actually guys. But, if I realize I have feelings for one, I’m doomed. It’s like I freeze and don’t know how to function properly. I once dodged into the nearest classroom in high school to avoid having to say hi to the guy I had a crush on when the halls were empty, and it was just the two of us walking toward one another.

Fail.

But I have been trying to live by the life motto “Be BOLD” for the past couple of years, and I’m forcing myself to include the way I approach the men who catch my eye. I’ve never even been on a date, so maybe my fear used to be because of some slight insecurity I had that led me to believe no guy would ever be interested in me.

But now I just don’t care.

I know my sufficiency is found in Christ, and whether or not a man returns my interest isn’t going to determine my overall happiness. God will provide love for me at the right time, but I’m also content with the idea that I may be single for the rest of my life.

That being said, I did something really brave. Well, it was really brave for me. Many other people might hear this and think it’s slightly ridiculous, and perhaps it is. But it was a huge step for me and something I would not have expected from myself years ago.

I’ve had a crush on this one guy for years, but I really only see him about once a year, so I refer to it as an “annual crush.” We were both at a surprise birthday brunch for a mutual friend, but there were a lot more people there than anticipated, and we ended up at different tables. However, I spotted a seat next to him that was still open, and I did something without giving it a second thought: I picked up my plate of food (that I had already started eating), grabbed my purse, and went and sat down right next to him.

And then I even talked to him. A lot.

I’m not saying he will fall in love with me now—though that would be pretty awesome—but I’m still pretty proud of myself for doing what I did. Sure, it’s something small. But it’s really something big. It shows how far I’ve come in this journey to being confident around guys I like, and I know I’ve reached a point where I know I can be me without any hesitations or hiding in classrooms.

I’m just going to pick up my food, sit down, and start talking. And, to me, that is brave.

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If you have any encouragement for Natalie and her brave story, leave it below in the comments.

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5 comments

  1. Ann Jorgensen
    posted on Feb 11, 2015 at 8:12 AM  |  reply

    Taking a step to overcome a fear or insecurity is never a small thing. It is that seemingly small thing that God often uses to get us over the hump and set us on our way to bigger things. It is very brave to take that step when you’ve been living with that fear or insecurity for as long as you have. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Kalen
    posted on Feb 11, 2015 at 8:32 AM  |  reply

    YES NATALIE! It sounds like our lives and attitudes are similar. I was invited to a party by my married friends who invited a guy that worked with the husband just because they wanted to see if we would get along…or something. They whole party knew about this intention and so I felt the pressure to put myself out there and go talk to him…knowing that all of the eyes and leaning ears would be in on it too. So it came time for a game around the living room and I yelled out at this guy and said, “I’ve got a seat here beside me.” I grinned and patted the sofa cushion. From the far corner of the room, he says, “No thanks. I’m good over here.” Well alright then. I hear ya loud and clear buddy. haha But, now I laugh and know that I can be bold too. 🙂

  3. posted on Feb 11, 2015 at 9:01 AM  |  reply

    Way to go, girl! I’m working on that exact same thing. I want my brothers in Christ to know I care about them.

  4. posted on Feb 12, 2015 at 12:34 PM  |  reply

    Natalie,

    That is really brave, I understand that fear of guys thing. If I know they are single (not dating or married) I seem to develop this instant case of “foot in mouth” syndrome, or I feel so queasy I have to run to the bathroom. At 31 I have had no dates and bravery is something I need to develop, so thank you for sharing.

    Laura

  5. Angelica
    posted on Feb 15, 2015 at 8:26 PM  |  reply

    This was me, word for word, exactly a year ago. So scared of dating. As soon as I handed everything over to God he completely opened my eyes to that ‘annual summer crush’ and now we’ve been dating since last summer!! God is so good, and always shows up in the most unexpected ways!!!

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