Day 8 :: Parents

on October 8, 2013 in 31 Ways To Speak Love with 3 comments by

31 waysI have great parents.

I hope I tell them that enough.

There are about six years of teen angst that I’m still making up for in my words towards them, so if you are keeping score- yeah, I’m behind.

Teens and children are very self-focused [in general] and the idea that what they say has any affect on their parents is a foreign concept.

I’ve never been a mama. I’ve certainly never been a dad. But I watch a lot of them and the older I get, the more I can see clearly how much those words from the younger to the older matter.

It’s a gentle dance that I’m learning as an adult daughter and mentor to younger women- how to use words and be affected by words without letting my worth be defined by others’ words.

And so many of my friends are parents- I’m watching them raise really decent kids that are super enjoyable to be around.

I hope I tell them that enough.

Parenting is a tough gig- I know that from having my own set of parents as well as watching a lot of parenting going on around me. It’s a bunch of flawed humans doing the best they can to barely scar the flawed humans they are raising. Not a walk in the park always, a heavy responsibility, but also great rewards.

So thanks, Mama and Daddy, for all the work you put into raising me and my sisters [and cousins]. Thanks for putting up with me when I was a bit of a mess and thanks for continuing to put up with me as I continue to be a bit of a mess. Y’all are pretty awesome. I’m glad you are my parents.

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SPEAK LOVE NOW

Today, why not tell your parents why you love them? Make that call- maybe you haven’t talked to them in a few minutes, days, or weeks. But make a call and catch up and say “I love you.” It goes a long way.

Caveat. I know your parents may not be awesome, or may not be living in order for you to celebrate them. If you can’t contact your own parents, why not find some friends who are parents and celebrate them? I’m going to be doing that today as well- calling a few of my favorite parent friends and let them know I think they are doing an awesome job.

3 comments

  1. mom@lthfarm
    posted on Oct 08, 2013 at 10:44 AM  |  reply

    Thanks, Annie. As a mom, this is touching – – as a daughter, this is necessary! Thanks for the reminder!! 🙂 Also, wanted to thank you…I won on your blog a while back, two copies of your book. I was to read one and pass on another. I am reading it, and LOVING it! My 17 yo daughter has a friend that had to move away recently, and it’s a difficult, disfunctional situation, and we both feel very badly for the girl, not sure how to help her. Thought that would be a great opportunity to pass my second copy on to a teen girl who needs guidance. She sent my daughter a text recently thanking her for the book, and told her how she’s reading it and loves it!!! That made us cry out in joy! Thank YOU!! #speaklove

  2. nancy
    posted on Oct 08, 2013 at 11:01 AM  |  reply

    Dear Annie, I love you. I love your writing. your words. this is beautiful. thank you for your voice of hope and all things positive.

    talk soon, I hope. 🙂 much love, n.

  3. posted on Oct 08, 2013 at 1:01 PM  |  reply

    I have great parents too. Mum’s just finished radiotherapy. My sister doesn’t live round here, but Mum, Dad and I went out for a meal last night to celebrate. It’s lovely to spend time with them, and my friends are raising great kids who are super-enjoyable to be around too!

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